All you Mum's out there, check out Auntie Gwen's you tube post. It's the funniest thing.....
The other thing that made me laugh was a phone call from my son saying he and his fiancee have decided to get married in Las Vegas in three weeks! Last time he got married (in 1993) he gave us four weeks notice. Now he's doing it again in three weeks on the other side of the feckin world!!
Do I laugh or do I cry??
Probably cry. His first marriage, at the age of 21 to a woman 9 years his senior, ended in disaster. His subsequent relationships have all gone pear shaped too including the one before this that produced our beautiful Noodle. We've had various reactions to this momentus news depending on how close they are to the family. Family members are, natually, a bit apprehensive. Close friends generally laugh. "Just stand back and watch it all fall apart" they say. Easier said than done when you're the Mum standing at the back waiting to pick him up AGAIN! But maybe I'm being pessimistic (you bet your sweet booty I'm pessimistic!) I've spoken to him and he says he is sure this is the right thing to do. With the right person. At the right time. At least this time he knows exactly how I feel about it. I'm happy if he's happy. I'm yet to be convinced that he's happy. And that's my dilemma. All us Mum's can do is wait and see. I've said my piece and will probably have a few more pieces to say before they jet off to the States but I doubt it will make the slightest bit of difference. Has he pressed his self-destruct button again? I bloody well hope not. But I bloody well think so. Go on son, prove me wrong!
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Oh, I hope he does prove you wrong Flick! In the nicest possible way of course!
There's a really easy tag over here for you.
Oh Dusty Mom, You know it's possible to laugh and cry at the same time. This is a hard thing to accept. I will pray the best for you. Do you like the girl he will be wed to. And does she love your little Noddle? Peace to you.
MOTL - thanks for tag. Trying to work out how to do the screen shot. It's a good tag though, nice one! Flick xx
mignon - Half the problem is that we don't know the girl he's getting wed to. Have no idea if she has any feelings for noodle. We've met her three times in a year.
The video is ingenious! Some of it would still apply to my 3 lads. I think I will just have it playing in the background, constantly, and save some energy!
My eldest son also has the self-destruct button, so I know how powerless you feel. I listen to him and watch him, in despair, at times. I question and advise. I try not to be patronising, but he's known everything since has was about 10 years old, I think! Really hope that things turn out differently, for your son, this time!!
mean mom - you're right, all I can do is hope it works out OK for him. I'm trying to stay a bit detached, it's his life after all. Flick xx
I often wonder what my MIL thinks of me - she has graciously never said. But I'm sure there were many words spoken in private when she learned that we had married. Many thoughts such as yours probably went through her head - and I'm proving her wrong every single day!!
Give it a chance DS - your support now will mean the world to him every single day of his life...but you already know that.
I hope it works out for you all, my own mum always said she never would stop worrying about us and I found it incomprehensible until I had my own.
But hey, Vegas, home of The Killers and not too shabby a place to visit, enjoy the wedding!
Thanks for visiting me, I hope you enjoyed as much as I've enjoyed my visit to your place. Much much kudos to you for linking stuff, something your auntie is too technophobic to try (or that will my general can't be arsedness? )
Here's the instructions that Cath sent to me:
PS - Screenshot - Press 'Print Screen' button on key board (top row to the right). Nothing happens BUT - then open Paint (or Word or something similar) and "paste" without copying anything else (right click and paste or in Paint, go to "Edit" on menu and scroll down to paste) and voila - a shot of your screen and whatever is displayed on it! Save and upload (as an ordinary picture).
Check what's written on your icons etc if you don't want personal names etc out. Change them before your screen shot. Whatever you are looking at on your screen when you press Print Screen will be captured in the shot. You can of course crop it if you wish.
Hope it works!
Oh dear. I have been there before. You can only hope & pray it all goes OK this time. Maybe he's learning as he goes. Will you be at the wedding?
Dear Flick, just visiting only to see how you are being put through the wringer again! I do hope it isn't going to be self-destruct. But you can only support and hope, I know. Love and thoughts, M xx
aims - Thanks for the different point of view, much appreciated, will bear it in mind in the coming months. I'm not blaming her though, it's his judgement of his situation I'm not sure of. I'll always be there for him though. Flick xx
Auntiegwen - Thanks for popping in, you? arsey?? Can't go to the wedding though I'm afraid. flick xx
Maggie May - Thanks for your thoughts. Surprising how many mums go through this isn't it! We can't afford to go to the wedding at such short notice I'm afraid. But he understands that. We'll be watching on line! How cool is that! Flick xx
Mother's place - getting fed up with going through the wringer. Will try and cheer myself up a bit. Thanks for your kind thoughts. Flick xx
MOTL - thanks for instructions. I did it!! Flick xx
jeez - donchta hate it when you're right? i've all this ahead of me - life is sure full of challenges. our burden as mums is to feel our children's pain, and we do...
scrappy sue - I'm afraid I have to learn to detach myself a bit, he's 36 after all. Big enough and ugly enough to sort himself out. He says he's happy so I have to believe him. Can't live his life for him that's for sure. Flick xx
'big enough and ugly enough' - if i had $1 for everytime my dad said THAT! he's english you know. what a blast to hear that turn of phrase lol.
keep us posted. we will all learn from this through you for sure, and for that we are grateful
scrappysue - glad you enjoyed it. You will certainly here all about it ad nauseum I expect. Flick x
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