Today, son and fiancee came to visit. I had, as you know, rather mixed feelings about their imminent and hastily arranged marriage in Las Vegas. However, now that I've seen them together I feel a lot better about it. That doesn't mean I have no misgivings at all. His past record in relationships doesn't allow me to do that. As I've said to him, trust and commitment take a long time to grow. It's a very gradual process and can't be hurried. Getting married will not make him trustworthy or committed. He can't prove his love with, flowers, gifts, tattoos or weddings. Only his staying happy over the coming years will convince me he is with the right woman at last. I'll be able to tell, oh yes, you can be sure he can hide nothing from me. That's how I know that today - he is happy. It was lovely to see actually. Fiancee is positively glowing, but then she would be wouldn't she! Oh stop it now. Enough negativity. Just be happy for them and enjoy the moment.
We'll be able to watch the wedding live on line. How technobloodyclever is that! Fiancee showed me her wedding dress on the web. It is beautiful. There will be photo's too and a DVD for them to keep. Of course it's so commercial out there that everything has been thought of. They only have to pick what they want, on line, and everything is done for them. It probably won't be the cheap option they first thought it would be... (stop it now.....just stop it!) but they will really enjoy the day I'm sure (that's better).
We're having Noodle for the weekend! She's coming on Friday afternoon and staying until Sunday! Can't wait! If the weather is good we'll be digging the garden, watering the pots (whether they need it or not) and playing in the park. If the weather is bad we'll be baking, cutting, sticking and all manner of crafty things. Son will be coming over on Sunday as it's his day with her anyway so I expect he'll want to have her to himself for a while which is as it should be.
The weather is dry today. If it's dry tomorrow as well we're going down to the boat. So things are looking up! Just stay positive.....just stay positive........just stay positive.
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I sincerely hope that your son has found the right person to share his life with. I understand what a worry it can be. The wedding online sounds amazing!
Having Noodle for the weekend will be great! It's just not the same watering pots, playing in the park and cutting and sticking by yourself, is it? I should know!
Thank you for popping over to mine and adding me to your dusting list. Daughter and I are dab hands with the Mr Sheen!
Reading about your son made me think of a friend of mine who is at the other end at the moment, getting divorced. I don't think there are any guarantees in marriage. However secure and happy you start out you may wake up one day married to a different person. So, conversely, if the start is a might quick and shaky, who's to say they can't grow together and be happy? Think positive!
Glad to know you're grandchild behaves just like mine with my parents. The veggies have never been so well watered in my dad's plot!
well, one positive is that you get to see the wedding right? staying positive for you :)
Hope it works out for him! Have a lovely weekend!
Indeed not mean mom. We planted some seeds in the garden and greenhouse this morning but i've saved some for Noodle to do next weekend. I think she'll enjoy getting messy (as i do!) Flick x
working mum - I hope that scenario is the one that comes true. Nice one. Flick x
scrappysue - thanks for your thoughts. Flick x
motl - Thankyou, I'll do my best. Flick x
At least you haven't said 'is it legal?' - the getting married in Vegas thing.
Have you any idea how long they will have to be happily married for you to think that they are happily married?
It sounds like you might always be judging his happiness. Are all parents like that? I don't know as I don't have any children - but I do know his parents judge us all the time...
The inevitable is - he's a grown man making his own choices and way in the world. Keep up the positive thoughts...you're a better mom if you do and you know that!
Over here - because of that exact kind of judging - the parents are not involved in our life at all and that is my husband's choice. You don't want that to happen do you?
Hiya Flick, glad to see you are being so Honest in your post. Something we, as mums, are not allowed to be in the 'real' world at times, especially to the child/ren in question, are we? However, worried or confused or scared we may be. We deserve BAFTA's sometimes, don't we?
I know you don't judge, or interfere, but you do worry. If your son, or his wife to be, felt that you didn't approve, they wouldn't have included you in any of their plans. He knows you love him, and that you are 'there' for him. That's what's most important.
Blimmin' kids! I'm not having any, are you?!
lotsaluv, Karen xx
Being positive and happy in the moment sounds like good advice. Best wishes to them and to you who can't help but worry.
Hope you got down to enjoy the boat?
Hi Flick, your family sounds as disfunctional as mine! ...ah! so that's the boat!
It's very clear that you love your son and that you want him to be happy. There are no guarantees in life, you just have to have a go. Better to try and make it work that be scared of failure and than wondering what might have been.
I send you and your family much love xxx
I'm glad you're feeling more convinced that he's doing the right thing..Lx
Yes, I hope they are right for each other. There's no way of knowing. Only time will tell.At least you get to see the wedding. Hope you have a happy weekend with Noodle.
aims - I think you're reading me wrong. If you read the post again you will see that I am being positive. I do really, no really, hope this will work for him. Oh and don't worry, there's no chance that I could put my family in a position where we did not have contact with each other. We are much stronger than that.
tea & cakes - Hugs, you know what for. Flick x
Merry Weather - yes we did get to the boat and had a lovely time. Thanks! flick x
R&C - not all the time thank goodness eh!! Flick x
auntiegwen - you're right about "better to have loved.." etc
Thanks. Flick x
Family Affairs - thanks for your support. Flick x
Maggie May - I'm keeping everything crossed and I'm looking forward to seeing the wedding on line. Flick xx
you are getting so many supportive comments - love it.
i'm having another giveaway- come quick!!! (no, i mean ANOTHER one!!!) lol
"technobloodyclever" I love that word.
Why did they pick Vegas, with so many other wonderful places in the world. It sounds odd.
It's good you got to meet her. Show us the dress. I like to take a peek.
Sigh. You know, at some point, you just gotta let them hang themselves, I guess. Not that, as a mother, it would ever be that easy.
However, Noodle's visit is very well timed to lift your spirits! My parents and hubby's parents are so uninvolved, my kids hardly know their grandparents. Boy, if we lived in the UK, I'd send the whole red-headed passel over your way to play with Miss Noodle!!!
I'm so glad Dusty - guess I was just worrying that your worries would affect the outcome.
You know of course that I come from a dysfunctional family so my comments stem from that...not from yours at all.
I wish we all could see this lovely wedding coming up. What fun that would be!
And since you won't be there - are you still going to get dressed up for the day?! What fun that would be!!
Hugs Dusty...
scrappysue - Yes, I'm very lucky to have such supportive fellow bloggers who are rapidly becoming friends. I'll pop over in a sec to check out your giveaway. You impulsive philanthropist you!! Flick xx
mignon - here's the web site for the dress http://www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10001_10001_64885_530493_-1
They had already booked a holiday in Vegas and Mexico, months ago, they only decided to have the wedding there a couple of weeks ago.
mom of three - Noodle has beautiful red hair (she gets that from her Mum not from our side)so your lot would fit right in. Send them over!!
aims - Love your idea of dressing up while we watch the wedding. We could take pictures to add to their album. Flick xx
DS- The dress is gorgeous!!! I love it!! Stunning!!!!
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